My sexual scenario usually looks the same:
- I get turned on by reading, gay porn, enema porn (haven't yet tried gay enema porn ;), the fact that I have 5 minutes to myself etc.
- I grab a simple vibe with variable speeds, turn it to medium and start rubbing its tip against my clit (sans hood), with occasional detours towards my vaginal opening and perineum.
- depending on how aroused I was before and what my hormone levels are, after more or less leg tensing, clit rubbing and clenching my teeth I orgasm.
That tactic lets me come in couple of minutes (usually below 5) and produces quite satisfying orgasms - about 7 on 10 point scale. Funnily enough I had both of my only 10s that way to. I describe myself as easily aroused and easily orgasmic but almost criminally impatient.
That assessment was validated last Saturday when I got a ticket to the pool and sauna complex. After swimming I had to warm up in a smaller, secluded pool with a couple of jets that was supposed to be a Jacuzzi. Ever since I heard of girls getting off by the jets I've been wanting to try it. I wasn't very hopeful - the jets were pathetically weak when compared to my shower-head at home. I had to rise myself on my arms to get the stream of warm water at the desired height. The noise was making it impossible to focus my mind on a fantasy. I was afraid somebody's going to walk in on me (somehow my inner exhibitionist had hidden herself) or see through the windows to the other part of the complex (I'm not sure that it didn’t happen).
Finally I decided to give up on getting off, rise up on my arms and let the stream caress my clit. After about thirty seconds of this I came. Long. The orgasm seemed to feel gentler and more prolonged compared to my vibrator or shower-head-induced climaxes. I tried it again after some time - the effect was less spectacular but still pleasing.
Similar prolonging of my orgasm takes place when I use my vibe on low all the way to the orgasm (when I'm trying to be sneaky) or through my clothes (soft pants, underwear). This kind of orgasm is at the same time more as it is less. Coming from a more direct stimulation sometimes feels too intense. Like "so hard it hurts" kinda thing.
There are times when I do something entirely different - I have longer masturbation sessions. But they still comprise of rushed orgasms, one after another with a small breather between to let my clit rest. In those sessions I include penetration (anal or vaginal) and take a bit more time.
My friend on the other hand, as she tells me, is totally different. She takes very long to come but has very long and intense orgasms and she prefers to keep that pace when she's pleasuring someone too. She's sexually knowledgeable and skilled - her long path to orgasm doesn't come from any lack - be it information or finger dexterity. She's also very sexually focused - one track mind if I ever seen one. I love her for it. Not that there ever was anything between us beyond a bit of harmless flirting - that's exactly how we want it.
I tried taking longer - but it seems it doesn't work for me. When I'm tired I go to sleep, when I'm not I get bored and decide to “get it over with already”. Sometimes I manage to get into it and my parents come back from visiting their friends before I have a chance to orgasm. I get distracted; lose everything I've worked so hard for.
Gretta Christina wrote recently that her aging body forced her to learn patience and taught her how to enjoy the plateau phase. So maybe there's hope for me.
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I have had much the same tendency most of my life. I tend to come quick. I have tried to do some serious edging, but I always find that I get really hypersensitive and inadvertently come. Usually, it's not as good as usual. I would love to be able to stay at a high peak of arousal for a very long time. I just can't do it.
I used to train myself to get just up to orgasm and then slow down to wait for the "OMG I'm gonna come" feeling to pass, so I could work myself up again... This allowed me to stay aroused for hours, reading erotica or chatting. I'd get "almost" to orgasm 3-10 times (depending upon how little I had to do that day!!) When I would then finally come, oh my oh my! My come would hit the computer screen! And the orgasms would last >20 sec, in multiple waves..
But, this was when I was young, in my teens. Now, I'm far less patient and just don't have the time. Unfortunately, I've realized that there is a difference between ejaculation and orgasm. So often, if I'm too cavalier about masturbation, I can "get myself off" but not really have an orgasm. This is especially during sex. I try to get "up to the edge" without coming (and then bring myself down), but more times than I'd like to admit, I've fallen over the edge... where I end up coming but not really having anything like I'd describe as an orgasm. Thus, I've really mastered the art of hiding ejaculations and faking orgasms, all for the benefit of my wife, of course. Of course, every once in a while, I'll get those 20 second orgasms... and I'm pretty sure she can tell the difference.
and that's me. :)
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